19+ Sexy Summer Songs That Got You Feeling Yourself

Shimmering December is hitting our shores and it is the perfect opportunity to unwind, relax and love yourself! What better way to do that than with some sexy hits to get you in the mood. Summer is connected with spontaneity, holiday flings and ‘girls gone wild’. Today, we’re all about that self-love and music that make you feel like a confident Summer goddess (coz’ you are one)!

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Pot Belly by Freshlyground

“Fat thughs, flabby arms; a pot belly still gives good lovin'” – it most certainly does! A South African classic that lifts the spirits with feel-good beats and self-love lyrics. I promise, there’s a reason this song is first on the list – nuf said!


Beautiful by Christina Aguilera

This powerhouse classic will have you shouting out to the world: “you are beautiful, no matter what theysay!” Feeling a bit down? Our special No.2 will cure those insecurities.


No Scrubs by TLC

A classic straight out of the 1990s that is oozing with self-empowerment and knowing your worth. Regardless of how old this masterpiece is, its message rings true to this day. Never settle for less and believe in your worth – you deserve all things good and well!



Bring some heat to your summer season with this spicy number. The bouncy baseline and catchy lyrics will ignite your inner diva and complement any trip to the beach (or morning shower).


Crazy Over You by BLACKPINK

If crazy looks good on you (__) this flaming K-pop hit will get your blood pumping. This 2020 bop pairs well with some dramatic lip-syncing and sexy glances in the mirror – have fun.


Belong To You by Sabrina Claudio

Selfish does not always mean something bad – it can mean unapologetically loving who you are and showcasing it! The fluid RnB melody will encapsulate you, naturally lifting your mood (so nice).


Cold Blooded by Jessi (제시)

If words of affirmation are your cup of tea, this hip-hop anthem from the queen herself – Jessi – will have you strutting your stuff. The lyrics heavily focus on self-assurance, self-confidence and powerful self-love.


One Dance by Drake (ft. Wizkid & Kyla)

Does a song need to say you gotta love yourself? I don’t think so. This 2016 Summer hit is accentuated with Afrobeats that is great for making you feel great during those long road trips or if you’re stuck in traffic.


Cherry by Jungle

Smooth melodies hypnotise you, transporting you to a place of calm and reassurance. You are part of this universe as much as the next person – always changing, always growing.


Tadow by Masego (+FKJ)

‘Tada’ + ‘wow’ = one sexy song. This hit sprouted from a jam session between the two artists and become popularised online. It will give you serious earworm, and the confidence to put on your red lipstick and love the skin you’re in.


Feeling Good the Michael Bublé version

One of the most popular songs performed by soft jazz and blues singer. This version of the song will give you classy, sassy levels of confidence to take on those dreary days before the holidays. The Nina Simone performance is to die for!


Woman by Doja Cat

A powerful ode to the many roles that women play in society, and how women move in and out of them. This afrobeats opening track is the perfect addition to your girls’ outing. Or simply, listen to it on your way to work for some powerful feminine energy!


What You Wanted by CIX (씨아이엑스)

The heavy baseline and flowy lyrical verses (and cute Kpop boys) gives you a sexy boost of confidence! But do not be fooled, the sensual feel of this song hides some pretty deep lyrics about knowing your worth and finding what it is you truly want – in life, in yourself and your relationships.


UN Village by Baekhyun (백현)

There is just something about the festive season that’s so romantic. Just us? Catching the eye of your crush outside the classroom. Meeting your workmate for a plutonic cup of coffee. This song embodies being smooth, flirtatious and confident. Let’s hit the town!


Nena by YEИDRY

A smooth blend of Latin influence and R&B, this ballad is nothing short of pure love. A story about “a mother sending her daughter a blessing from afar” speaks to the heart and soul. What better way to show how much you love yourself, by extending that love to others too.



I’m a 빛 by Hwa Sa (화사)

Along your journey, you will find that not everyone has your back. It’s okay! Take some advice from this kween, and become a real b!tch and take on the world in your own way! With heavy electro-pop influences, this sassy track will help you embody the savage energy you need to follow your dreams.


Love Again by Dua Lipa

We’ve all been there – when we feel like the world is falling apart and the darkness has won. Never fret – this song is the metaphorical cuddle session you needed. Fun, empowering and super sexy: the nostalgic-heavy track will have you dancing any blues away.


Try a Little Tenderness by Pip Millett

Sometimes a kind word is all that we’re looking for. Soft and sweet, this song is nothing short of a melodious therapy session. As Millet say herself: “Try a little tenderness
That’s all you’ve gotta do” Go easy on yourself, eat well, sleep fully and stay hydrated!


Darkest Hour by Joy Crookes

Sometimes life gets tough and it can be difficult to walk alone. This song is all about loyalty, especially through the hard times. Celebrate this holiday season by extending your appreciation to the friends, family or pets who were there for you ‘even in the darkest hour’.



Let’s be fair – the Summertime is the best time for chilling and enjoying life! This Kpop summer track is about living that dream party life. A punchy percussion line and infectious chorus will have you up on your feet. Not to mention the powerful S(L)AAY energy this song radiates!


Flower by Johnny Stimson

And in the end, the journey of self-love is a beautiful ballad, each one with its own unique poetry. This loving 2019 song compares a love interest to flora with words of adoration, awe and tenderness.

Did we miss a feel-good song that you love? Let us know in the comment below! We wish you nothing but good things for the rest of this crazy year ahead. You can find the full GOTB Self Care Spotify playlist below. Stay healthy, stay hydrated!

25+ Simple Sayings That Are Simply Blissful

A few years back, I received a tiny book from a kind neighbour. The miniature piece of literature was no larger than my own child-like hand. Yet, it held some of the most impactful words that would help me through my Tumultuous Twenties. ‘A Simpler Life’ by Helen Exley aims to help the reader reach a more contented life by doing less overthinking and over-analysing, and simply finding peace with who you are and where you are in your journey.

Inspired by the work of Exley and her team, I will be sharing Over 25 Quotes That Are Simply Blissful. Comment below which quote you loved, and live by.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”


“May you live every day of your life” – Johnathan Swift

“Turn your wounds into wisdom” – Oprah Winfrey

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavour” – Truman Capote

“My roses are my jewels, the sun and moon my clocks, fruit and water my food and drink” – Hester Lucy Stanhope

“Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens” – Jimi Hendrix

“The desire to reach for the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise” – Maya Angelou

“The wise adapt themselves to circumstances, as water moulds itself to the pitcher” – Chinese Proverb

“Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment” – Rumi,  Masnavi i Man’avi

red, orange cherries for good health, sweetness in life and love
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“Angry people are not always wise” – Jane Austen, Pride & Prejudice

“Life would be tragic if it weren’t funny” – Stephen Hawking

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” – Aristotle

“Suffering is a gift. In it is hidden mercy” – Rumi

“Do all the good you can and make as little fuss about it as possible” – Charles Dickens

“The quiet mind is richer than a crown. Sweet are the nights in careless slumber spent” – Robert Greene

“Time that withers you will wither me. We will fall like ripe fruit and roll down the grass together. Dear friend, let me lie beside you watching the clouds until the earth covers us and we are gone” – Jeanette Winterson, Written on the Body

“When you forget that you need Allah (God), He puts you in a situation that causes you to call upon Him. And that’s for your own good” – Omar Suleiman

“Goodness is the only investment that never fails” – Henry David Thoreau

“Give love in secret by praying for one another” – Unknown

shiny red apples that keep the doctor away
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“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too” – Earnest Hemingway, Men Without Women

“True love is rare, and it’s the only thing that gives life real meaning” – Nicholas Sparks

“We learn from failure, not from success!” – Bram Stoker, Dracula

“One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well” – Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own

“Joy exists only in self-acceptance. Seek perfect acceptance, not a perfect life” – Unknown

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” – Sharon Salzberg

“Sit loosely in the saddle of life” – Robert Louis Stevenson

“Learn to wish that everything should come to pass exactly as it does” – Epictetus

“The busiest, most creative soul must have at its heart a place of silence, of utter simplicity and peace” – Charlotte Gray

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Peace and Love on the Planet Earth – Islamic Affirmations

The month of Ramadaan has left the building, but the lessons we learned during the month stay with us – acting as a catalyst for a good year ahead. And as much as I love being optimistic and trying to find the good in things I have come across a more realistic mantra – prepare for the worst, and hope for the best. So while we believe it is going to be a good year ahead, we also have the responsibility to make it our own version of awesome.

We can’t do it alone, and no one is expecting you to do that! Here is a little bit of support in the form of Islamic Words of Affirmations to get you through anything life has to throw at you. Enjoy! Comment your favourite one down below 😀

(PS I came across a list of these Islamic affirmations, so credit to whoever the author of the random printed handout was)

  1. I Avoid Quarrelling

“And obey Allah and His Messenger and do not quarrel, for then you will be weak in hearts and your power will depart, and be patient; surely Allah is with the patient.” (8:46)

  1. Every Night I Think of Three Things I am Thankful for

“…If you count the blessings of Allah, never will you be able to number them…” (14:34)

  1. I Love My Prophet (pbuh)

“Indeed, Allah showers His blessings upon the Prophet, and His angels pray for him. O  believers! Invoke Allah’s blessings upon him, and salute him with worthy greetings of peace.” (33:56)

  1. When I Want to Change My Life, I Change My Myself First

“…Surely Allah does not change the conditions in which a people are in until they change that which is in themselves…” (13:11)

  1. I Remember Allah as Much as Possible

“Remember your Lord morning and evening, deep in your heart with humility and with reverence; and in a moderate tone of voice; do not be of those who are heedless.” (7:205)

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  1. I Always Hope in Allah’s Mercy

“My servants, you who have transgressed against yourselves, do not despair of the Mercy of Allah. Truly Allah forgives all wrong actions. He is Ever-Forgiving, the Most Merciful.” (39:53)

  1. I Prioritize the Next World and Let Go Earthly Tethers

“So as for he who transgressed, and preferred the life of this world, then indeed Hellfire will be his refuge.” (79:37-39)

  1. Goodness Always Comes to Those who Patiently Persevere

“How excellent the affairs of the believer! His affair, all of it, is good for him, and this is not the case with anyone except the believer. If prosperity comes to him, he is thankful, and if adversity falls on him, he perseveres patiently. So it is all good for him.” (Muslim, Ahmad)

  1. I Use My Reason and Critical Thinking

“It is He Who has created you from dust; then from a sperm-drop; then from a blood clot; then does He get you out as a child; then lets you (grow and) reach your age of full strength; then lets you become old – through of you there are some who die before – and lets you reach a term appointed (death); in order that you may use your reason.” (40:67)

  1. I Am Responsible for My Actions and My Life

“…And that each person will only have what they endeavoured towards, and that (the outcome of) their endeavours will be seen (in their record), then they will be fully rewarded…” (53: 39-41)

  1. My Hardships Are Here to Bring Me Closer to Allah

“Allah does not want difficulty for you, but He wants to purify you, and to complete His favour upon you, that you may be grateful.” (5:6)

Sunset over mountains. Purple, red and orange sky. Snow-capped peaks look over a vast, still lake. A man looks at the scenic beauty on a landing near the lake.
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  1. I Remember That My Life Purpose Is to Worship Allah

“I created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me.” (51:56)

  1. I Turn to Allah First

“It is You alone we worship, and You alone we ask for help.” (1:5)

  1. I Seek Allah’s Help with Patience and Prayer

“Nay, seek (Allah’s) help with patience and prayer; and most surely it is a hard thing except for the humble ones.” (2:45)

  1. Truly, I Am of The Believers

“Who is better in speech than the one who summons people unto Allah, and performed a good deed and says, ‘Truly I am of the believers’.” (41:33)

I hope you have found these simple quotes to be a source of goodness, guidance and happiness. May the Almighty guide you all towards contentment and pure love. Stay Hydrated!

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#RIME-TIME: The poem I should’ve written


E/N: The poem is self-explanatory, so I felt the writer didn’t need to add the usual little explanation/motivation to accompany it.

Written by ‘The Traveller’

The poem I should’ve written, should’ve been about her.

3 years ago she wrote me a letter, telling me how she felt. Lord knows I felt the same but my bloodshot eyes made me go insane.

My bloodshot eyes infected my mind and made me feel unworthy.

Brought back to life and felt so dizzy…

The next day I left. I should’ve said something sooner… 

I should’ve told her, I’m falling in love with the person before me. Should’ve told her I don’t want to leave, I’m too young and it’s too early. 

Took the journey and felt regret, upon seeing my hometown once again. 

A few months went by, I should’ve asked why she’d been so quiet… 

Tortured by solitude, my thoughts left in silence. Not physical but performing emotional self-violence. Destroying myself with narcotics partnered with ciders. Smile on my face as I entertain backstabbers and liars. 

I came home. I should’ve ran to her… 

I spoke to her that night, texting back and forth as I lay on the floor, hoping, praying she’d come through the door. I should’ve told her I missed her I should’ve told her I cared. 

I couldn’t let her fall for me, I was too weak. 

I kept my distance to protect her, deflect her, almost to reject her. When I saw her again in person I melted, but melted in silence. 

We stopped speaking. I should’ve said something… 

Again she was in my sight. Not in my circle. In the distance, her smile not the same, her eyes still so bright. I think about her every day and every single night…. 


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#HORROR-SHORROR: ”I could see it on her face…”

DISCLAIMER: Some of the themes/dialogues in this article deal with abuse and domestic violence, and may be triggering, or uncomfortable for some readers. Please read at your own discretion.

I am sitting at the café waiting for Diana; she told me to meet her here, sounding frantic on the phone.

”Meet me at our usual place, at two ‘o clock. I need to meet with you urgently. Please come meet me –

I heard a man shouting in the background…

” – I-I don’t think I can handle it anymore”.

The shouting then grew nearer…

‘Who are you talking to?!’

~YOUR CALL HAS BEEN DISCONNECTED~ , and that was the last that I heard.

The bell above the door chimes, alerting the barista at the counter, ”Welcome”.

I look up from my phone and see Diana walking towards me. She isn’t wearing her usual colourful clothing, nor is her bright red hair tied up, but hanging loosely, covering her face slightly. She smiles meekly at me, but it doesn’t reach her eyes; she looks dead.

”So why’d you call me? I saw you like two days ago” I ask. She just plays with her wedding ring.

She looks up at me, as I look at her closely, I can see that her eyes are puffy and her nose red.

”Can’t I just see you anytime I want to?”, she asks hoarsely.

”I mean, you can, but it’s not like you to call me during work.”

She looks around nervously, tightening her grip so much that her knuckles turn white, biting her lip nervously. Next thing I know, tears start rolling down her cheeks onto her black turtleneck.

”It’s about Max. He-He’s…” she starts sobbing, uncontrollably.

I put my hand on hers and give a comforting squeeze, gently saying, ”You don’t have to tell me if you don’t feel comfortable”.

Her crying’s calmed down, she moves her hands and tucks her hair behind her ears. That’s when I see it on her face – a monster mark, that no person deserves branded onto their face. A mark that’ll make anybody want to murder the person that produced it. On her jaw, a bruise, so ugly: its blue discoloration and hints of red.

She then rolls down her collar and I see more red marks starting to emerge, I stop her hands by putting mine on hers. She looks at me, confused and hurt.

I shake my head side to side, she looks at me like a deer in the headlights and starts trembling. We don’t speak, communicating just with our eyes. I look at her sternly and stand up.

I walk to her side of the table, roll her collar up, take my coat off and put it around her shoulders. I kiss her forehead and grab her hand. I pay the barista at the counter and leave the café, holding Diana’s hand tightly.


We stop in front of Diana and Max’s house, idling for a bit in the car before I turn to her.

“Do you want me to come in?”

She shakes her head and as she gets out of my car, barely above a whisper she says, “I love you.”

She freezes as she looks out to the house. I could see it on her face, she dreaded going back there; she didn’t want to step out of my car. I could see it on her face…


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#STORYTIME: Spring: the season of revival

And so the frost of winter is melting away, the seeds of love and commitment buried in the soil begin to sprout again, the mild breeze brings in the song of love, harmony and peace. I am standing under a blooming tree, the breeze whispers in my ears, singing a wake up song to my sleeping soul. I can behold the life being awakened by the gentle waves of the spring; a new season breathing a new soul into a barren life.

The grass begins to dazzle and flowers dance with the wind as I contemplate this revival and sit under the tree. A seed has no sense, a heart nor brain either, yet it commits to strive and shoots out from the rigid soil to live free. It struggles and grows despite that the conditions may become harsh; it leaves behind a legacy – yet another seed to sprout.

I ponder upon my creation, having mind and heart so sound. I have buried my voice a thousand times and have become more rigid than a soil, lost voices never were found. Seasons came and seasons went, yet the seeds of love and commitment were lost deep in my heart, or was it me who never allowed them to sprout? The rumbling thunder around me never allowed me hearing the sounds of my heart. Springs came and went, I ignored the songs and wake-up calls, and now here I am sitting, deaf, letting my vision hear and talk. The voice inside me became numb and I, a mere corpse.

Another stroke of wind blows, this time it did not whisper, but it shook me from inside. The breeze then gently tickled in my ears and whistled melodiously. It brought back to me the strength of hearing and resurrected my lifeless heart. This spring is not like the others that have passed by; it reunited me with my lost part. I can hear my heart talk; the chronic wounds seem to heal now.

This time, it is me who will set boundaries and it is me who will define the love; I am not a mere puppet, nor a mere dust. Loving myself will be my principle, being respected will be my right, I will love myself for every fall and a  thousand times I will fight!

#STORYTIME: The She-Human II

I slowly lowered my eyes as he spoke, my inner voice muting his words.

Could this be happening?
Did he just say that?
What is happening?

‘I’m sorry,’ he said, the look in his large dark eyes neither one of sympathy or courtesy, he was as real as I could read him to be. I felt numbness, it was too much to comprehend after 11 months of courting. I’d put all my hopes into the basket of building a life with him, shutting all doors on everyone, believing through all our misunderstanding that I was the least perfect person with all of the faults. There I was with no hope of what the next second would hold. I watched him leave, turning his back on all that we’d built.

I remember crying every other night, wetting my pillows with hopelessness – she had a pretty face and perfect body, I heard from his friend that they had been together some months before our break up. I smashed things and even hurt myself to let go of the pain. Molly would always let out a meow, comforting me with her fur. I found her across the street with a broken limb after being hit by a car, since then she has been a listening friend.

It was the first Saturday of the month that a call came through and confirmed he was getting married to the other woman that day. I felt paralyzed with sudden flashes of memory, I blacked out, hitting my head on the wooden cabinet behind me.

I opened my tired eyes to the steady beep of the ER machine, before I could speak I blacked out again. My hearing was numbed at first, I felt like I’d slept forever, with sharp striking headaches. “How long have I been here”, I managed to ask the figure examining my file.

“4 days”, he replied, smiling.
“I found you in a pool of blood, and rushed you to the hospital”, he added.
For the first time, I noticed he was the doctor. He explained to me how Molly was behaving weirdly, and how he had to follow her into the house.

I was discharged from the hospital a couple of days later, and had found a new love for this person, that seemed like forever. I warned my heart but it wouldn’t listen. I fell in love… again, and I still don’t know if that was the right thing to do.

~ Maryam Jimoh

#COLLAB: Remember Me

I sat beside her bed, watching the life slowly leave her eyes. I hastily wiped a tear from my eye, because she had made me promise no tears, none at all, but how could she have asked that of me? She was leaving me, leaving this world, and my heart was breaking. Nothing could compare to the pain I felt.

I remembered the conversation we had the night before, “Hey lazy butt lift your head”. I heard a soft whisper and felt a hand nudge my head, at first I was startled, and confused. I blinked a few times and slowly everything came back. The slow and constant beeping of the heart machine, the heavy laboured breathing, that smell you only smelled when at the hospital and the fact that I was painfully waiting for her light to fade. 

“Oh, cheer up! You are making me feel depressed,” she made a joke, laughing or rather trying to laugh. I smiled a small smile thinking about how brave she was and how she did not even look a little sad at the condition she was in.

“And here I thought you’re done cracking your lame jokes,” I said, putting on a happy face while my heart cried out in pain.
“Me? Crack lame jokes, yeah right, that’s more your style,” she replied still smiling. As time went by we looked at each other. I kept thinking how could this have happened? She was still so young and vibrant, she still had a lot to do and she had always been a good person, she had never harmed anyone intentionally always had to share with others and she was generally a happy, healthy and loving person. How could she be leaving me? What would I do without her?  No, I refuse to believe this, she can’t leave, I need her.

 She took my hand as if she was reading my mind, I felt the heat of her hand and held on for dear life.

“You do know you will be OK, right? You will find someone who will be there for you, who will listen to your complaints, give you advice, keep your secrets and wipe your tears. I have to leave, my time is up and I have to tell you I do not regret one second of my life. I just wish I had met you earlier. You became my soulmate, my other half,  the one who knows me better than I sometimes know myself. I need you to be strong and brave, you have to be or I’ll break and I do not want you to remember me with tears running down my face and snot coming from my nose. You have to be strong for my parents and remind them that we have no control over these things and it happens as it was decreed. We must always remember, Allah Knows Best and He is the best of planners. You should not be sad when I’m gone but knowing you I’ll allow you to be sad for a day, but remember – ONE day! Then the following day you have to promise you’ll go to our spot and remember me. You may cry, but when you leave, there should be no more tears. You have to make dua for me: ask Allah to forgive me and ask Him to connect us again in Jannah InshaAllah – you better live a good life so that you will be going there in the first place! You should also name your firstborn daughter after me, I’ve always told you Noora is a beautiful name,” I was about to say something but she stopped me. 

“No, please don’t interrupt me because I need to say all this before my time is up. Go out and find happiness but don’t just fall for anyone ‘Your Prince in Shining Kurta’ will find you and you’ll be happy like we always said we would – remember our daydreaming? You must remember me always because if I’m able to, I will always remember you. You need to know you are not just my best friend you are my sister, my twin sister, my confidant and my very own Hero. My life would not have been the same if you were not in it. No words will be able to express how much I love you and how much you mean to me. One more thing… please promise me while you sit here you will not cry, not even one tear, please? ” she asked. I could barely speak and my reply came out so soft I didn’t even think she heard me. 

“I promise Noora… I love you too.” 

I left the room to give her parents time with her but they came out saying she asked me to be there with her so we could spend our last time together since we couldn’t spend our first hours together, sometimes she would say the weirdest things, but I knew what she meant and I wanted that too. Now watching her leave this life I placed my hand on hers and noticed a smile on her face.

“Thank you Nooree I will miss you so much…” I lifted myself up and we hugged each other as best we could. As I held my best friend in my arms,  I felt her last breath brush against my hijab and I heard the heart monitor give a few more beeps…then just one long one – and my friend was gone. I knew things would never be the same again: I would never see her smile or hear her laugh or listen to her lame jokes, but I knew that she would be fine and I would be fine too.

“Goodbye my friend, go well,” I said as the tears streamed down my face. I took one last deep breath and with it, I took in the smell of Noora, my best friend, my sister, and now my guardian angel.

Written by: Riahannah Halliem with help from Thakierah Rajap

Riahannah Halliem is a 16-year-old girl from Cape Town, who enjoys reading and writing in her free time.